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Re: Former freelancer bothering me?

tlsanders
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Tiffany S Member Since: Jan 15, 2016
21 of 27

Martina P wrote:


If anything makes you uncomfortable, I don't see why you don't block him right away. You seem to be a nice person who does not want to hurt other's feelings, but only hurts him/herself in the process. It's about boundaries, and not having to explain yourself to anybody. 


Do you really think that as an adult professional, blocking someone is necessary to set boundaries? What if that person worked in the same office with you, or lived in your apartment building? 

martina_plaschka
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Martina P Member Since: Jul 11, 2018
22 of 27

Tiffany S wrote:

Martina P wrote:


If anything makes you uncomfortable, I don't see why you don't block him right away. You seem to be a nice person who does not want to hurt other's feelings, but only hurts him/herself in the process. It's about boundaries, and not having to explain yourself to anybody. 


Do you really think that as an adult professional, blocking someone is necessary to set boundaries? What if that person worked in the same office with you, or lived in your apartment building? 


It depends on the person, in this case I definitely suggest to do it. Some others might just shrug it off and never think twice about it. 

The chance I'm living in the same building with somebody I felt stalked by on upwork are slim to non-existent, but thanks for asking...

prestonhunter
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Preston H Member Since: Nov 24, 2014
23 of 27

I'm not telling anybody who or when to block.

 

But the ability to block people in the Upwork messenger tool is really awesome!

 

I could tell you a number of stories - some funny, and some that are just kind of pathetic - about freelancers who I blocked.

 

After posting dozens of jobs and hiring over 80 different Upwork freelancers, my experience has been this:

The overwhelming majority of Upwork freelancers are really great! Genuinely skilled. Honest. Professional people. Upwork provides a great service in making it possible for clients to find them.

 

But a small percentage of Upwork freelancers are real pests, or out-right scammers.

 

Some people definitely should be blocked - and blocked quickly. And doing so makes my life better.

sergio-soria
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Sergio S Member Since: Dec 19, 2017
24 of 27

Maybe he has a crush on you? I have read weird stories about that, not here but in LinkedIn. Some people just don't know how to behave professionally.

tlsanders
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Tiffany S Member Since: Jan 15, 2016
25 of 27

Martina P wrote:

The chance I'm living in the same building with somebody I felt stalked by on upwork are slim to non-existent, but thanks for asking...


I'm guessing you're intentionally misstating my point, because you can't possibly have believed that's what I meant.

 

What if someone who lived in your building violated your boundaries by asking how you were occasionally? How would you handle that, with no block feature in real life?

martina_plaschka
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Martina P Member Since: Jul 11, 2018
26 of 27

Tiffany S wrote:

Martina P wrote:

The chance I'm living in the same building with somebody I felt stalked by on upwork are slim to non-existent, but thanks for asking...


I'm guessing you're intentionally misstating my point, because you can't possibly have believed that's what I meant.

 

What if someone who lived in your building violated your boundaries by asking how you were occasionally? How would you handle that, with no block feature in real life?


That would be on the range of a friendly response, chat, or invitation to coffee, to going to police for a restraining order, depending on my perception of threat-level. 

yitwail
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John K Member Since: Feb 17, 2015
27 of 27

Christina W wrote:
Thank you all for taking the time to respond!

Yes, the contract was closed as soon as he completed it and got paid for it.

Sounds like it's not that uncommon then and that it may even be somewhat encouraged by Upwork. Which is something I suspected but didn't know for sure. I actually think it's a good idea to keep in touch with clients, but it has to have a purpose and context.

Christina, maybe I'm the exception, but I've never tried to keep in touch with clients, and certainly not the ones with a closed contract. I'm also not aware that Upwork *encourages* freelancers to do so, but that's not to say there isn't some Upwork tutorial that recommends doing so.

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