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How to climb above the situation you face in life.

 Even people that seem like everything comes so easily to them. The road to the top is not a day journey, it is a journey that takes a lot of dedicated action to it.

Let's take a look at how to climb those mountains of life.

 

1

Accept that life is a challenge that must happen. A lot of people will dismiss challenges that come before them. They'll convince themselves that the problem is smaller than it really is or that it doesn't exist in the first place. You need to recognize when you start thinking this way because it's true what they say: the first step in overcoming a problem is admitting that you have one.

This isn't a fun part of the equation. Accepting that this challenge is real and that you're going to have to deal with it can be really scary. If you're scared of what this challenge can mean for you, just remember: so far in life, you've met every challenge that's come before you and made it out okay. There's no reason to think that this is any different.

 

2. Take Responsibility. It's important, with any challenge that you end up facing, to start doing something about the problem as soon as you possibly can. Each moment of inaction becomes an action in itself. By doing nothing, you're still doing something. And that something probably isn't helping the situation. Problems usually multiply when left to themselves, like rabbits. The sooner you start facing the challenge, the easier it will be to overcome.

 

3.Return to the facts. So, you're ready to start tackling this challenge? Great! The best place to start is by evaluating the facts. What do you really know about what's going on? Are you sure you understand the situation? Don't just deal with what you think the problem is; the real issue might be something you didn't even realize was a problem. Take some time to make sure that you understand the situation as fully as possible.

This usually means that you're going to have to talk to people, although who will depend on your situation. Are you having problems with school? Talk to your teacher. Problems at work? Talk to your boss or a coworker. Problems in your relationship? Talk to your partner. Problems with your health? Talk to your doctor. You get the idea.

It can help to make a list. A challenge is rarely one single task or problem, but is instead made up of lots of different parts. Make a list talking about what the smaller, sub-challenges are and what you'll need to do in order to combat them.

 

4. Take details of what you have.

 

Now that you know what you're dealing with, you'll want to think about what tools and resources you have available to help you in facing this challenge. What resources are most important will depend on your problem, but there are lots of things you can consider. Think about your strengths, the people that can help you, and any physical resources you might have (like money). You should also think about areas in which you are weak. This will let you plan ahead so that you can compensate or at least be prepared in areas where something might go wrong. Be realistic about both the good and bad things that you have to offer this situation: fantastic optimism is not your friend here.

For example, let's say that you're facing a challenge in your marriage. What do you have that can help you face this? Well, you're good at communicating how you feel. That's important for reaching understanding in interpersonal issues. You also have your parents available to you, as they've managed to stay together through some pretty serious fights. They might have some advice. You also know that you're not good at changing your habits, so you'll know that you'll need to be prepared to pay extra attention to that.

 

5. Gather more resource. Now that you know about what the facts of the situation and what you have available to you, you can start finding resource that can help you. Find out more about the challenge you're facing. Talk to people that have faced the same challenge. The more you know about the facts, similar situations, and the experiences of others, the easier time you'll have making smart decisions about facing your own challenge. It'll also help keep you from feeling alone.

 

You can find a lot of information by going online and using Google to find websites that deal with your specific problem.

For example, let's say that you're facing a challenge at work; you are up for review and you're worried that your performance has been poor. Now, go to Google and search for performance reviews. You'll learn about the process and hear how things have gone for other people. You can also learn about what you can do to improve your chances for keeping your job if your review goes badly.

 

6. Communicate, communicate, communicate. If the challenge you're facing in any way involves other people, then a large part of your challenge can be dealt with by talking to other people. Most of our problems come up in the first place because we fail to communicate in the way that we should.

For example, let's say that you're having problems in your relationship. The best way to solve relationship problems is to talk to your significant other. Be honest about how you feel and what you want and encourage them to do the same. If they won't talk with you, well that kind of answers the question, doesn't it?

Another example would be if you're having problems at school. Talk to your teacher or the school's counselor. No matter what the problem is, one of them should have some ideas that can help you. You might think that they might be mad at you, judge you, or make things worse, but that is very likely not true. You're very unlikely to tell them something that would surprise them and they'll have a lot more experience in handling the problem and will probably have some good ideas for you.

 

7. Look for a mentor and find a solution to solve life issues.. When you're facing a challenge, one thing you can do to really transform your experience of the situation is to find a mentor. This can be a person, a website, a book: anything that can give you advice on your specific situation and inspire you to take it like a champ. Having a mentor can make your experience more positive and help you change how you experience what's happening to you.

For example, if you're having problems with a friend, talk to your older sister. She'll probably have had similar troubles at some point in her life, so she'll be able to give you advice. She'll also be able to support and comfort you.

Online communities can also fill this role, so don't worry if you're not that great at talking to people or asking for help face-to-face.

Don't relent in gathering information that can change your life positivity in the nearest future to come.

Damilare Akinpelu
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e374967f
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Topic: A life after today

Introduction: life is the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death. Life is the give that God gave us as a being inorder for us to fulfill our purpose in life.

 

What is life after today: life after today is a kind of life tgst Jesus Christ lived to the extent that we still have him in mind.

 

A life after today is a kind of foot steps that others can follow when we are no more. A life after today speak for you when you're no more but your legacy we continue to speak after you.

 

In the country we found ourselves, am very sure there are some kind of people people we wish our lifestyle to be like them because they lived a positive life, by not being able to live the way others live there lives.

 

Your life should be a challenge to those who are after you.

 

How can we live a life after today? 

1. Believe in Yourself , but Be Aware of Your Limitations.

 

The first step to accomplishing all your goals and making your dreams come true starts with this simple realization that you are human:

 

You are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone.

 

Always keep things realistic. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself that you find it hard to move; trust yourself to deliver what you need to, but also be prepared to cut yourself some slack.

 

Own up when you make a mistake. Set goals, and enjoy the journey.

 

2. 

Use Everything in Moderation

This is something I live by, be it work, socializing, family commitments, overeating, shopping, or watching too much TV—it helps with every single thing.

 

Embrace the philosophy of “having enough”:

 

There’s no need to go to extremes, so exercise common sense and learn to curb any obsessive behaviour.

 

Spend less money than you make. watch your diet and watch less TV.

 

3. Treat Others How They Want to Be Treated

You might end up getting in trouble if you try treating others how you want to be treated, instead of how they would like you to treat them.

 

For instance, if you are not a phone person, you might not call your friend because you assume that they feel the same way you do, which may not be the case.

 

Try to be sensitive to the needs of others, and occasionally going out of your way to do something for them.

 

Try not to judge. Be generous; try to do something nice for somebody on a regular basis.

 

4. Have a Positive Mindset

You are what you think all day long.

 

If you have nothing but negative thoughts racing through your ahead, then that’s what you are going to get, so try shifting to a more positive outlook on life.

 

You will be surprised to see that whatever you wished for will start to manifest itself around you.

 

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” ― Henry Ford 

 

5. Educate Yourself

The most interesting people are the ones who take an interest in life and never let go of the “beginner’s mind”. They discover learning opportunities and continue to grow, both personally and professionally.

 

Be a life-long learner. You don’t have to get old to become wise.

 

Read good books. Try to learn something new every day. Take courses in subjects you enjoy.

 

If we can do all these things our life will be a legacy for others to follow. Never look down on yourself because there are many souls that are attached to your progress in life so therefore live for tomorrow for us to keep talking about you.

 

 

Damilare Akinpelu

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williamtcooper
Community Member

Hey Akinpelu, in summary love others and love God. Have a great day!

e374967f
Community Member

Loving God is the best way to pursue life challenges sir. Thanks sir.

Damilare Akinpelu
e374967f
Community Member

Topic: A life after today

Introduction: life is the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death. Life is the give that God gave us as a being inorder for us to fulfill our purpose in life.

 

What is life after today: life after today is a kind of life tgst Jesus Christ lived to the extent that we still have him in mind.

 

A life after today is a kind of foot steps that others can follow when we are no more. A life after today speak for you when you're no more but your legacy we continue to speak after you.

 

In the country we found ourselves, am very sure there are some kind of people people we wish our lifestyle to be like them because they lived a positive life, by not being able to live the way others live there lives.

 

Your life should be a challenge to those who are after you.

 

How can we live a life after today? 

1. Believe in Yourself , but Be Aware of Your Limitations.

 

The first step to accomplishing all your goals and making your dreams come true starts with this simple realization that you are human:

 

You are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone.

 

Always keep things realistic. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself that you find it hard to move; trust yourself to deliver what you need to, but also be prepared to cut yourself some slack.

 

Own up when you make a mistake. Set goals, and enjoy the journey.

 

2. 

Use Everything in Moderation

This is something I live by, be it work, socializing, family commitments, overeating, shopping, or watching too much TV—it helps with every single thing.

 

Embrace the philosophy of “having enough”:

 

There’s no need to go to extremes, so exercise common sense and learn to curb any obsessive behaviour.

 

Spend less money than you make. watch your diet and watch less TV.

 

3. Treat Others How They Want to Be Treated

You might end up getting in trouble if you try treating others how you want to be treated, instead of how they would like you to treat them.

 

For instance, if you are not a phone person, you might not call your friend because you assume that they feel the same way you do, which may not be the case.

 

Try to be sensitive to the needs of others, and occasionally going out of your way to do something for them.

 

Try not to judge. Be generous; try to do something nice for somebody on a regular basis.

 

4. Have a Positive Mindset

You are what you think all day long.

 

If you have nothing but negative thoughts racing through your ahead, then that’s what you are going to get, so try shifting to a more positive outlook on life.

 

You will be surprised to see that whatever you wished for will start to manifest itself around you.

 

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” ― Henry Ford 

 

5. Educate Yourself

The most interesting people are the ones who take an interest in life and never let go of the “beginner’s mind”. They discover learning opportunities and continue to grow, both personally and professionally.

 

Be a life-long learner. You don’t have to get old to become wise.

 

Read good books. Try to learn something new every day. Take courses in subjects you enjoy.

 

If we can do all these things our life will be a legacy for others to follow. Never look down on yourself because there are many souls that are attached to your progress in life so therefore live for tomorrow for us to keep talking about you.

 

 

Damilare Akinpelu
icananswer
Community Member

Please give me advice on what I am doing wrong. I can't get any jobs. I received two jobs right away, and I have not acquired any job in weeks.

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