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Do you make a new excuse when you've menstruation or just blurt your 'bleeding is killing work'?

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Geomaria G Member Since: Mar 6, 2015
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Had to talk about the M word. But, I really wanna know what you guys do because I get severe PMS  too (two weeks before called PMDD) and I'm a monster during the period. 

I have said to a handful of clients when my periods is killing me. But it always makes me pause and rewrite the message before I hit send when it's male clients.

What do you do? You don't need to disclose the details, but sometimes when you're committed to a work that the client is awaiting within 2-3 days and you're stuck with the blood, what do you do gals?

Really sorry, if the M word killed your joy. Had no choice. 

Geo Maria George
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Petra R Member Since: Aug 3, 2011
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You have GOT to be joking...

 

How would "that" be your client's problem, and no, obviously that is not something I would discuss with a client or ever mention. 

 

And No, I don't "make excuses" - I just do what I was hired to do or accept the consequences of not doing so.

 

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Geomaria G Member Since: Mar 6, 2015
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It's definitely not their problem. It's mine. Wholly.

What I meant is, my pains are really severe (before and after), so sometimes all hell breaks loose (perhaps it's not like that for you) and PMDD support suggests alerting the client in the beginning. I don't do that. I just want to know if any of you end up having to postpone a commitment you made to a client because of menstrual conflicts. If you haven't had such an issue, move on Petra. Thanks for the comment. 

I really am looking for something constructive because it's different.  I suggest you google PMDD first. It's really not what you think if you're just assuming, no offense meant. Good day and thanks again.

 

Geo Maria George
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Nichola L Member Since: Mar 13, 2015
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Geomaria,

 

If you feel that PMS or menstrual pains are going to stop you from working then you do not accept work at this time. You do not discuss this with your client.

 

This is no longer my problem TG! Smiley Tongue But a couple of years ago I fell down a flight of stairs and hurt myself badly enough to think I was going to have to cancel my jobs. I was in pain, but I decided not to. I took painkillers and did the work and I did not tell my clients. As far as I can tell feedback was OK and I got some much needed money.  

 

But this is the downside to freelancing - one has no insurance against health issues - we (female or  not) either bite the bullet, or cancel the job. There are no alternatives. Clients simply do not want to know, even if they are sympathetic. Period pains sadly, are on a par with the dog ate my homework.  

 

ETA: If the pain is so bad that you can't work, you need to consult a specialist. These days much can be done for disabilitating period pains. 

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Jennifer R Member Since: Sep 15, 2017
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I second Nichola. But I see some of your side. I have used the pill for years and every fourth week on the second day of the break I was very short tempered. I quit the pill and my hormones settled. Try to get some medical help and add these days to you calculation so you don't miss deadlines. I always save one day every week in case my kid gets sick.

 

But to answer you inicial question. That's nothing to discuss with a client. You just have to work around it some way or the other.

 

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Remco V Member Since: Mar 13, 2018
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I didn't read the full title of your post, so wasn't expecting this... but as I am here, you might appreciate a guy's perspective.

 

I have no idea how painful it is, but to be fair... I don't need the details either. If you're too unwell to work, I think a message saying that you are sorry, but that you are not well enough to work should do the trick. If people ask what's wrong, you can say it's kinda private and tell them when you expect to recover. No further details are needed.

 

 

 

 

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Irene B Member Since: Feb 17, 2015
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No. I have had pneumonia and made a deadline. The ONLY time I have had to tell a client 'no can do' was when I got a bug that had me embroiled in a serious love affair with the bathroom...I was either IN the bathroom or half delirious in bed. I almost landed up in the hospital that time. But other than that...No.  Oh...except the time a close family member was dying of cancer - early-ish last year. I got the work done but asked for extensions (I helped to look after him during this time) and explained the situation. But that is about it. 

 

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Amanda F Member Since: Aug 8, 2015
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I've had bleeding for about 2 years straight as I have a disease that causes it and it is horribly painful always(stopped for now thankfully) but I still always power through my work. I do take ibuprofen occasionally to help the pain.

 

Even when my dad died November of last year, my clients got their work the next 2 days. When you are doing freelance work, you have to make sure you do it no matter what's going on personally. Obviously if you need to be in hospital it's different then because there isn't anything you can do. Still, NEVER tell your client about  medical issues, whether they are a male or female. You only do this if you have no choice, and even then you commited to their work and deadline, so get it done. 

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Aron H Member Since: Mar 29, 2017
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as you might notice by the reactions you receive here, it's probably not a good idea to inform a client about that problem. They might react the same way, or probably much worse or agressive since they might think you try to fool them.

Probably a forum directly adressing that problem is a more fuitful source of information than a freelancer forum hardly anyone can relate to the problem.

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Mary W Member Since: Nov 10, 2014
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A year ago, I was in such excruiating pain that I couldn't walk to the mailbox.  I had multiple doctors' appointments - primary care, orthopedics, neurosurgeon, pain management, chiropractor - and extensive testing appointments.  I let my clients know that I had some issues (did not explain) but I didn't miss any deadlines, although I could only sit at the computer for, at most, a half hour at a time.  There is a way to plan your workload to accomodate such fun occurences.  (Actually, 3 years ago my daughter-in-law was on life support and not expected to live.  I flew across the country, stayed by her bedside, took care of her baby and got my work done.  Wasn't easy but I plowed through.  I did ask one client to close our contract and explained why.)

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