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I was in the same place recently. Unfortunately, there is little you can do. There are people who take certain types of edits as a personal affront. If there are small changes you can revert to make them happier (even if that makes your teeth hurt), you might want to do that. It at least shows them they’re still in control and that you’re listening to them.
Otherwise, I’d say as little as possible. The more you say, the more you open up the possibility for further disagreement. And it isn’t inevitable you’ll get bad feedback.
And I suggest you raise your rates. The more people pay, the more likely they are to trust you.
Ultimately, it's their book. One way to approach is to say something along the lines of "I see now you're looking for a lighter copyedit, I'll focus on grammar, spelling, and punctuation." You can still make suggestions on really awkward sentences, but maybe keep those to comment bubbles - "this might read more smoothly as ..."
And, yeah, what Kim said. Start bumping your rates up.
re: "Guess it’s not a good fit after all and I should allow for a percentage of these to cross my path... "
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